7 Do’s and Don’ts When Designing an Engagement Ring


Diamonds may be forever, but not all engagement rings stand the test of time. What makes for a beautiful, resilient ring that will sparkle with the same intensity in 30 years or 50?

Whether you’re trying to figure out what your dream ring should look like or you are shopping for that special someone, it is a good idea to learn as much as you can about engagement ring design. Here are 7 quick do’s and don’ts to keep in mind while you are shopping around!

1. DO NOT buy 24 karat gold.

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Just because 24-karat gold is the most pure, that does not mean that it is a good choice for an engagement ring. It is way too soft, and the band can easily be damaged. Pick 14-karat or 18-karat gold. Neither is “better” than the other; it is all down to preferences.

2. DO NOT assume your partner is traditional.

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We have all heard that “diamonds are a girl’s best friend.” But not all women actually want a diamond. Some will be happier with a sapphire, ruby, emerald, pearl, or other gemstone. It is always best to check before going with a nontraditional choice, but your partner may prefer it.

3. DO NOT buy something ordinary.

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How boring is an engagement ring that looks like every other? Consider going with something completely unique, like a one-of-a-kind handcrafted ring. You can even personalize it with engraving.

4. DO NOT pick a color that will not suit your recipient.

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Yellow gold is the most traditional wedding band choice, but these days platinum, rose gold, and other metals are also popular. Think about your partner’s skin tone, wardrobe, and the metals she usually wears. Pick something that complements her skin tone and her style.

5. DO consider the shape of your partner’s fingers.

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If she has short fingers, a wide band can exaggerate that. Pick a size which will not overwhelm her fingers or appear lost.

6. DO take her personality into account.

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Think about your partner’s wardrobe and personality. Is she artsy? Classy and elegant? Modern and sophisticated? Romantic and nostalgic? Choose a ring that will complement her style.

7. DO ask around.

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If you are in doubt, it is a smart idea to ask for help! Even if you do not want to talk to your partner directly about it, you can always ask her close friends or relatives. Sisters and cousins are perfect to ask. They may have been hearing about her dream engagement ring for years!

It takes time and effort to pick the perfect engagement ring, but odds are good your partner has already given you some hints. Pay attention to the jewelry she wears, her fashion, and her sensibilities, and you will be able to pick out the perfect ring!